Husband Demands Wife Stop Supporting Her Sister’s Burger Business Since She Buys Them Every Week, Wife Complies by Leaving Him Out of Family Dinners

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Jul 28, 2024 10:00 PM EDT

Having a good relationship with your partner's family is something no one should take for granted. For some reason, it is so rare to feel at home with your loved one's family, and if someone does feel comfortable, they should hold on to that as strongly as they can.

It seems like the family in this Reddit story is on great terms with each other, which is why it is surprising that OP (original poster) is looking to cause drama. OP is happily married to his wife, who, as it seems, is close to her sister. The sister recently started a burger business to earn extra money for her upcoming baby, and OP's wife is incredibly supportive of her. She buys burgers every week and OP's whole family gets to enjoy them, at least that was until OP decided that they should no longer spend that money. For some reason, OP is unhappy that his wife spends money to support her sister, so he demands she stop.

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  • 01
    AITA for telling her to stop spending $45 on burgers weekly?
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  • 02
    My (M42) SIL (33) recently started selling burgers on Saturdays. She works a 9-5 Mon-Fri office job with a good salary, but she recently discovered she is pregnant with her ex's baby, he is no longer in the picture, so she is selling burgers for extra income.
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  • 03
    Now, every Saturday my wife (40) buys burgers for our family (3 kids, 12, 10 and 8). My issue is that my SIL sells every burger for $9. So 5 burgers is $45. The burgers are tasty, don't get me wrong, but she
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  • 04
    is using my MIL recipe, that my wife also knows, so I don't see why we should spend $45 weekly on burgers when my wife can make identical ones at home and we would spend less money on ingredients.
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  • 05
    To be clear, technically we can afford SIL's burger comfortably, I just don't see why we should when there are cheaper options I try to talk about it with my wife and she said she mostly buys
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  • 06
    because she wants to support her sister. I told her it's not our job to support her sister, beside as I said the burgers are tasty and every weekend they are sold out in a couple of hours, so I don't think losing our 5 burgers would put a dent in her business.
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  • 07
    Yesterday I told my wife again we shouldn't buy burgers, and she asked me why I cared if she was buying them from her money, not our money (we have each an accoutn, and one joint account). I
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  • 08
    told her it's not about that, I just don't think it's sensible to spend $45 every weekend on burgers when she already knows the recipe. She said she will be spending $36 then, because she won't be buying mine anymore if it bothered me so much.
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  • 09
    That's exactly what she did, she bought burgers for our kids and her, and didn't buy one for me, which okay, anyway I got a big mac for cheaper. So I thought we were okay, but she has been acting as if she is mad at me since yesterday. I fail to see why she is mad, AITA?
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  • 10
    HudsonsBlink. 3 days ago . edited 3 days ago Partassipant [1] YTA I was going to say NTA until I got to the part where you say that you guys have separate accounts and a joint account, and she is buying the burgers from her own money.
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  • 11
    "We" aren't buying the burgers. She is. From her separate money. Does she micromanage how you spend your money? What if she instead just gave her sister $45 a week from her own money, in exchange for no burgers, what business is that of yours?
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  • 12
    JeansInMyKidneys • 3 days ago Call me a but even if it's a joint account the fact that OP said they can comfortably afford them and that they have no pre-existing beef with the SIL... Then just buy them man. It's a sweet thing to do, wife doesn't need to cook or clean up and you can help out SIL without it seeming like charity like don
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  • 13
    Away_Refuse8493 · 3 days ago Professor Emeritass [71] YTA She TOLD you - I try to talk about it with my wife and she said she mostly buys because she wants to support her sister. I don't think you understand the difference between supporting her
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  • 14
    sister do something REALLY FRAKING GOOD... She is a going to be a single mom to y'alls niece or nephew, and the SIL is NOT asking for handouts, she started a business. Your wife is supporting her sister doing something REALLY GOOD for herself, and her future baby.
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  • 15
    You are not paying the sister's rent. You aren't giving her money. You are buying burgers, that y'all enjoy and can afford, and by doing so, helping a kid. It's like when you buy Girl Scout cookies (also yum) or whatever. I just don't think it's sensible to spend $45 every weekend on burgers when she already knows the recipe.
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  • 16
    God forbid one of your family members goes through a tough time... Now, not only do you want your wife to stop supporting your sister (who again, is asking for NOTHING, just trying to get her life setup for a baby), you want your wife to buy the ingredients and make burgers for you herself? That is not a very smart thing to say.
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  • 17
    I think your SIL is a class act. She was dealt a tough hand. She's rising to the occasion. She is hurting your family ZERO. Let your wife do something nice for sister and nibling!
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  • 18
    Technical-Paper427 · 3 days ago . edited 3 days ago Yes this! It's not about food. It's about supporting her sister with money she can spare without making her sister feeling she receives charity. Which it is ofcourse. It's not about the hamburgers. YTA big time that you don't understand this
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  • 19
    Please get it, because this is so fundamental that I dare to say that this is going to k your marriage. If SIL had a shampoo business you would have her shampoo in the house. If she had a log business you would have bonfires every weekend. If she did nails your wife
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  • 20
    would have new nails every 2 weeks. Do you understand? It's not about food. It's about supporting people you love.
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  • 21
    Level-Researcher5432 3 days ago YTA I'm a pretty ok cook. I make something we call Fopotle. It's just as good (spouse says better but Idk about that) as Chipotle. It's generally cheaper too. But you know what sometimes I want the
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  • 22
    dan thing without the work. It's hot there's lots of moving parts and I just want something delicious without all the dishes and counter wiping and children interrupting. So we get chipotle.
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  • 23
    Its not straining your finances It's not your money You have not offered to do the work yourself as far as I can tell and rather going to some evil multi billion dollar corporation the money goes to your sister in law who needs it.
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  • 24
    I genuinely do not see how you can have a problem with it other than just wanting to argue.
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  • 25
    celticmusebooks · 3 days ago Partassipant [1] So you could have had a "free" gourmet burger that benefited a family member-- but you spent your own money to by a crappy corporate burger that benefits some billionaire and somehow you think you "won"-- yeah YTA here.
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  • 26
    rafters- 3 days ago YTA for trying to dictate how she spends her own money when as you said, she can comfortably afford it. I get where you're coming from in this, but she's not just making a dumb choice about food just because. She's trying to financially support her struggling sister in a way that doesn't feel like charity.
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